What's up people? I took a little time off from Part 3 of the "Wife Material 101" series and even did some blogs in between, but now I'm back. I want to address a couple of things before I get into Part 4. One, my writing is not for everyone. I don't expect everyone to like or agree with what I write. Everyone is not going to like my views and opinions on certain topics. I don't mind people opposing what I write either, because that's part of being a writer. It doesn't make them wrong nor does it make me wrong. As stated in a previous blog, we all come from different backgrounds and environments so we share different opinions on different topics. The next thing that I want to address is the question of why I don't write about husband material. Well my reason is because men are the ones that choose a woman to be their wife, not the other way around. Sure a woman chooses which man she wants to date and of course she has to say "yes" to him for a marriage to take place. But, the man has to pop the question. Well at least he should.
Wife Material 101 (Part 4)
Are You Responsible?
That's right! One major thing that men look for in women is responsibility. "Is she responsible?" Women that are responsible are like magnets to men. The word responsible stretches a long way, but I am mainly referring to having stability and consistency with your decision making. Part One of the series comes back into play here, because in Part One I discussed how a woman's past relationships are her resume. If you weren't responsible in your past, some guys may see it as a negative, but some may see that you have potential despite your previous mishaps, depending on if you've changed and the woman that you currently are. When it comes to responsibility, women are either going to be a asset or a liability. If you're not responsible, you're not going to be viewed by men as an asset. Although some men may downplay how responsible a woman is; it's very important.
Are you responsible in reference to finances?
Men are very aware that most women love to shop. We don't have an issue with women that love to shop. However, we do have an issue with women that love to shop with the money that was meant for bills and other important expenses. Being able to handle money the correct way is very important. You will either diffuse or ignite a lot of potential arguments and debates with your mate by being responsible with money.
Are you responsible in reference to having a family?
In today's society, some men decide to have children purposely with women that they don't desire, nor see themselves being in a relationship with. To each it's own. But I'm not referring to those men in this post. Some women already have kids. Some people may look at it as a negative for those women, but it's actually a positive for some. If a woman already has a kid(s), and she takes care of herself well physically and mentally, as well her kid(s), she'll be viewed as responsible, which is part of being viewed as wife material. If she doesn't take good care of herself or her child, she'll be looked at as irresponsible. There are a lot of single parent women who attract men because of how responsible they are in reference to themselves and their kid(s).
Some men prefer women that don't have any kids. They want to start off their family fresh and share their kid(s) with one woman. These men are paying attention to how a woman behaves around other kids, how well she takes care of herself physically and mentally, if she takes good care of her belongs, and if she's potential mother to be the mother of their future kid(s). These men want to know are you capable of being a good mother to their future offspring. If not, you will not be looked at as wife material by them. Most men has to see you as the potential mother of their child before they can see you being their wife.
Upkeep
How are your upkeep skills at home? Can you cook food that's not fast or microwaved? Do you know how to iron and wash clothes? Do you know how to clean your home? How responsible are you with maintaining a home? Times have changed in society and some roles have been reversed. Some people believe men should take care of the heavy duty work around the house and some believe women should take care of the light work such as cleaning, cooking, and other things of that nature. Some people believe that all task should be shared and alternated between both partners. Whatever your believe is, knowing how all of the above mentioned (questions) makes you more marketable to most men. I don't expect your husband to ask you to get on the roof and fix things around the house, but the more you're skilled home upkeep and the light duties, the better.
In the end, I could have made this series out to be a book. It's so much more to discuss when it comes to a woman being wife material. I have received a lot of feedback, positive and negative in reference to this series. I don't know the mindset of every man or woman, but one thing I do know is how the majority think. Some people told me that this blog series was useless because people aren't getting married anymore. I beg to differ for two reasons, the first is because it's a blog and it's free and the second is because I am seeing a lot of women that I know personally and through association getting engaged every day. Now unless these women are lying, then this blog series is valuable to some people out there. If a woman is currently engaged, but their mates are procrastinating with choosing a wedding date, I suppose this blog can and will come in handy for them. As stated, if you relate to it, enjoy it!
Darnell R. Mckinnon
I can actually say I learned something good. Why is this the last one?
ReplyDeleteGreat post....Responsibility should be a key in a woman's life. God and her family should always come first. I feel that many women are getting away from responsibility these day. I agree completely with your post awesome job Darnell.
ReplyDeleteI want another part. I think you covered some good parts though
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