Ah! It feels good to be back blogging. I took about 2 weeks off after I finished the marriage material series. I had other business to attend to. But now I am back. It's interesting, because recently I was having a discussion with a woman and she asked me if I write to inform people that are unaware or do I do it for everyone. My response was that I write to inform people that may not be aware. One thing about writing is it's free, in reference to freedom of speech. I believe when people critique writers on writing material that they already heard; it's kind of a dis to the writer. I'm a strong believer that no idea is original, so most things that you read will be regurgitated material, especially if you're a well informed individual. To be specific, a lot of the current self-help books stem from books such as "Psycho-Cybernetics" by Maxwell Maltz, "Think and grow rich" by Napoleon Hill and "How to win friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. However, since everyone has not read those books, other writers come out with similar material to "share" with and educate their reader base. I believe as writers, it's not our job to invent new ideas and be all exclusive with material every time we write. Our goal is to affect, inform, and share information with people, whether it's 3 or 3,000,000 people. So, if you're already informed on the things that I discuss in my books and blog, props to you. However, keep an open mind because you still may learn something new. Like I always said, if I know something that can benefit others, I am going to get it off of my chest and share it the best way that I can; writing.
Nonchalant
I'm guilty of this and I'm quite sure that you may be guilty of it as well. We all may have been nonchalant towards someone at some point in our lives. People that follow my blog should know that I believe that the blueprint to having a successful relationship is finding a mate that you can build with towards a common goal. In dating, one type of person that you should avoid when it comes to finding a mate to build with is someone that displays nonchalant behavior in reference to you. Nonchalant is a sign of someone having a lack of investment in you. Whether that investment is passion, attraction, interest, desire, or love. When a person is nonchalant towards you, it should instantly raise a flag in your mind. Now if you just met someone, they may come off as being nonchalant towards you because they don't know you that well and it takes time for most people to open up to others emotionally. They usually have to build some form of trust first. But, if that person continues to display nonchalant behavior towards you after weeks have went by, then you should be very alarmed.
The unfortunate thing with some human beings is that they tend to be attracted to those that display nonchalant behavior towards them. The more they ignore you, the more you desire them. If they show you that they're not really interested in you it touches you somewhere inside to the point that you're willing to do anything to garner their full interest. More than likely it won't happen. This is how people get used in relationships. They deal with people that have no equal interest in them and therefore they're constantly chasing that person's affection, love, and interest by constantly providing sex, purchasing gifts, or doing favors for them without receiving anything in return.
As stated above, when someone is nonchalant towards you, it's usually because of a lack of investment. Some people are not over their ex mate and therefore they can't fully invest their positive emotional energy such as love and passion because some of that energy still is directed towards their feelings for their ex. The lack of positive energy being invested can also be caused by that person dating other people while dating you, so therefore they lack an investment of interest in you. For some, they may not be attracted to you whether it's physically, mentally, or both, so therefore they lack an investment of attraction and desire for you. While others are waiting for you to invest more in them than they're willing to invest in you. One problem with relationships these days is that men and women no longer desire to invest in each other equally. Some women want a "sponsor" and a hero and some men want a "groupie" or slave. You cannot build towards a common goal if the two of you are not equally investing the same amount of love, energy, desire, interest, and determination to reach that goal, unless that goal is breaking up.
When you're thinking of things that you desire in a mate, make sure that you think of a mate that possess empathy towards you. Make sure you share the same characteristic. If not, building towards a successful relationship will be a waste of your time. If someone is nonchalant towards you after the two of you have gotten to know each other, cancel them as relationship potential. It's nearly impossible to build if both partners aren't equally investing.
Darnell R. Mckinnon
Nonchalant
I'm guilty of this and I'm quite sure that you may be guilty of it as well. We all may have been nonchalant towards someone at some point in our lives. People that follow my blog should know that I believe that the blueprint to having a successful relationship is finding a mate that you can build with towards a common goal. In dating, one type of person that you should avoid when it comes to finding a mate to build with is someone that displays nonchalant behavior in reference to you. Nonchalant is a sign of someone having a lack of investment in you. Whether that investment is passion, attraction, interest, desire, or love. When a person is nonchalant towards you, it should instantly raise a flag in your mind. Now if you just met someone, they may come off as being nonchalant towards you because they don't know you that well and it takes time for most people to open up to others emotionally. They usually have to build some form of trust first. But, if that person continues to display nonchalant behavior towards you after weeks have went by, then you should be very alarmed.
The unfortunate thing with some human beings is that they tend to be attracted to those that display nonchalant behavior towards them. The more they ignore you, the more you desire them. If they show you that they're not really interested in you it touches you somewhere inside to the point that you're willing to do anything to garner their full interest. More than likely it won't happen. This is how people get used in relationships. They deal with people that have no equal interest in them and therefore they're constantly chasing that person's affection, love, and interest by constantly providing sex, purchasing gifts, or doing favors for them without receiving anything in return.
As stated above, when someone is nonchalant towards you, it's usually because of a lack of investment. Some people are not over their ex mate and therefore they can't fully invest their positive emotional energy such as love and passion because some of that energy still is directed towards their feelings for their ex. The lack of positive energy being invested can also be caused by that person dating other people while dating you, so therefore they lack an investment of interest in you. For some, they may not be attracted to you whether it's physically, mentally, or both, so therefore they lack an investment of attraction and desire for you. While others are waiting for you to invest more in them than they're willing to invest in you. One problem with relationships these days is that men and women no longer desire to invest in each other equally. Some women want a "sponsor" and a hero and some men want a "groupie" or slave. You cannot build towards a common goal if the two of you are not equally investing the same amount of love, energy, desire, interest, and determination to reach that goal, unless that goal is breaking up.
When you're thinking of things that you desire in a mate, make sure that you think of a mate that possess empathy towards you. Make sure you share the same characteristic. If not, building towards a successful relationship will be a waste of your time. If someone is nonchalant towards you after the two of you have gotten to know each other, cancel them as relationship potential. It's nearly impossible to build if both partners aren't equally investing.
Darnell R. Mckinnon
I needed this. You just don't know I was going thru that 3rd paragraph. Thanx
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