Wife Material 101 (Part 3)

Welcome back to the Wife Material 101 series. After Part 2, some women hit me up in my inbox on Facebook and stated that a woman has to get sleeping around with a lot of men out of her system before she gets married, similar to men. That's false in my opinion. Women have to get the desire for attention from different men out of their system, but sex is on another level. I'm sorry women, but it's a double standard. Some men have emailed me and stated that they don't care what a woman brings to the table, as long as she looks good. I even had some women email me and state that they know some men that have married women who had a rough history in reference to sex partners. I'm not speaking on the average Joe Blow or men with low standards. For the average man with no standards or appreciation of value, wife material equals great looks and ONLY great looks. I'm referring to men who have standards and that desire women with more elements than looking good and good sex.


In Part 2 of the series I left off at proving that being monogamous is something that a woman desires and have mastered. That's very important because no (smart) man wants to be married to a woman that's sleeping around with other men. In Part 3, I'm going to start off with "Attitude" and it's importance. Attitude is a definite deal maker or breaker and I'm going to explain why.


3.) Attitude


Attitude is vital because it will make or break a woman in reference to a man choosing her to be his wife goes. A woman with a positive attitude trumps a woman with a negative attitude ANY DAY. I don't care if a woman is Miss America, if she has a negative attitude most men that value themselves and their time will not stay around for long. It's true, as men we give women that have their stuff together (Looks, finances, intelligence) a pass. However, the pass will eventually expire if her attitude continues to be negative. We are talking marriage, so an expiring attitude will probably not lead a woman to marriage, and if it does it will lead her to divorce quickly.

I often hear some women state that they want a man that likes women with a little attitude. Let me explain, men like women with attitude, but not a combativeness. We have been tricked into believing that the word "attitude" means acting dramatic and combative, but it's really about your mental state. You don't have to be negative minded and edgy in order to have attitude. Displaying confidence with a positive mindset is having attitude. It's very difficult to even grasp the thought of being in a long term relationship with a woman that has a negative mindset.

Let's talk basics. If a woman has a negative mindset in reference to men and life, how is the relationship expected to progress and prosper? I believe that the only way to have a successful relationship is to build, together. Negative equals subtracting in math and in life. Now if there's two negative minded people, the relationship is definitely doomed. If any negativity is present in either partner's mindset, it will constantly subtract from the building blocks that supports your relationship.

On the other hand, a positive attitude works wonders. If you're a woman with a positive attitude, you WILL get married if you want to. There's no doubt in my mind that men love women with positive vibes and attitudes. It enhances conversations, it raises our comfort level with confiding in you, and it makes us look forward to talking to you and being in your presence. It's a breath of fresh air. The problem for some women is their positive attitude is only present in the beginning stages of getting to know a man and then the positivity disappears once her comfort level rises. This is where having a positive attitude is beneficial. When it's organic, it won't disappear because it's part of who you are. When it's artificial, your positive attitude will disappear the more familiar you become with a man. A woman with a positive attitude raises a man's comfort level. She's the type of woman that men brag to their friends about. Believe me, I know this and it happens often.

When a woman has a positive attitude, other things in her life are usually in pretty good shape as well. Her work ethic, faith, determination, and value are pretty good as well. The Law of attraction is real and people that think positive attract good things into their lives, including mates. If you want to marry a good man, keep a positive attitude and focus on being a good woman. It works like magic!

*Click here to check out Part 2*

There's a Part 4 to this series and it will also be #4 under "Carry yourself like you're wife material."



Darnell R. Mckinnon